No parent wants their child to struggle or experience disappointment, and it’s natural to want your child to be happy. That natural desire can lead to parents overindulging their kids.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Kelly Olson says parents need to set rules and expectations to avoid overindulging their kids.
Stress can also lead to parents overindulging their kids, like when you’re at the store and buy your kid the toy they want so they will just Stop. Throwing. A. Fit.
The problem is overindulgence can lead to kids thinking that this is how the world works, that they can buy what they want when they want it.
Overindulgence also comes when we don’t set expectations for our kids, such as for contributing to the household or maintaining a healthy diet.
That’s why Olson says it’s important for parents to think through the reasons why they’re wanting to buy or do something for their child. Does it help the child grow – emotionally, physically or spiritually?
It’s OK to say no, set limits and create expectations for our kids.
If you’re concerned about overindulgence or have other parenting struggles, you can count on The Village Family Service Center to help. Call 1-800-627-8220 to make an appointment with a family therapist, or request an appointment online.