You’ve heard it said that people who are angry live in the past, stuck on old hurts and disappointments, and unable—or more likely unwilling—to forgive and move on. People who are fearful live in an uncertain future, their fears a reflection of a hurting past that colors their world in shades of gray. People living in the past and the future represent the vast majority of Mankind, myself included. And, the prognosis is for more of the same.
There is a cure, however, and it is called The Present.
The Present has always been with us, but strangely enough, we often discount it and even rush to get past it—as though it were some kind of terrible menace that seeks to overwhelm and devour us. In our youth, we longed to be older, bigger, stronger, more powerful, and in control of our lives. We could hardly wait to be out on our own and away from parents or guardians who we felt were trying to keep us from our happiness. At first, being responsible for making all of our own decisions was exciting, exhilarating, empowering, and enthralling. But then we quickly became bored with the mundane things of life, like taking out the trash, buying our own toiletries, washing the dishes again and again, until we once again looked longingly to the future as though the present was no longer good enough.
As I’ve grown older and hopefully wiser, I’ve come to realize that the real opportunities don’t lie in the future at all, but in The Present: The here and now. This time. This minute. This second. Now. The next moment is not promised to me, so I am learning to live in the one I have now.
Someone once said, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” There is only one place from which to create that future, and that place is The Present. This moment is the only one you and I have. It is the only one that matters because it is the only one we can truly control. The choice to do or not to do, to say or not to say, to love or not to love; all is right here in this moment.
So what shall we do with the moment we have right now? Shall we choose the live in the past with its old glories and old regrets, or shall we live in a future that is yet to be revealed?
What if we choose to embrace The Present? What if we choose to live each moment on purpose—with an eye on creating a positive and hope-filled future, but living in The Present nonetheless? How would that change your life? What would happen if we each choose to live a life of positivity, possibility, integrity, and authenticity one moment at a time, regardless of the things that happen to us outside of our control?
I believe if I can somehow master living in The Present, I will experience what it truly means to have Peace in the Midst of Chaos. It is a conscious choice that requires commitment and perseverance on my part. Please join me on this journey.
About the blogger
John E. Trombley, organization development consultant and training with The Village Business Institute has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Alaska, Anchorage, and a Master of Management degree from the University of Mary, Fargo. Prior to founding his own organization development company, John served as a Command Pilot, Squadron Commander, and senior staff officer in the USAF and Air National Guard—he retired as a Lieutenant Colonel with over 6,200 flying hours. With over 16 years of experience in providing consulting services and training programs, Trombley has a passion for group process facilitation and corporate training in areas including leadership development, change management, leadership transition processes, managerial coaching, and personality assessment workshops. He is registered with the Supreme Court of the State of Minnesota as a Qualified Neutral mediator, is trained in Critical Incident Stress Management Group Crisis Intervention, and is certified in Internal Investigations by the Council on Education in Management. For more information, contact The Village Business Institute at 1-800-627-8220 or www.thevbi.com. – See more at http://thevillage.areavoices.com/tag/vbi/#sthash.EXFHAo9L.dpuf